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Positive thinking: Reduce stress by eliminating negative self-talk

Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health. Practice overcoming negative self-talk with examples provided.

Is your glass half-empty or half-full? How you answer this age-old question about positive thinking may reflect your outlook on life, your attitude toward yourself, and whether you're optimistic or pessimistic — and it may even affect your health.
Indeed, some studies show that personality traits like optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of your health and well-being. The positive thinking that typically comes with optimism is a key part of effective stress management. And effective stress management is associated with many health benefits. If you tend to be pessimistic, don't despair — you can learn positive thinking skills. Here's how.

Understanding positive thinking and self-talk

Positive thinking doesn't mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life's less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach the unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.
Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head every day. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you're likely an optimist — someone who practices positive thinking.

The health benefits of positive thinking

Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:

• Increased life span
• Lower rates of depression
• Lower levels of distress
• Greater resistance to the common cold
• Better psychological and physical well-being
• Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
• Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress

It's unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits. One theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body. It's also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don't smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

Imagine whatever you want is here right now. What do you want?

Imagine whatever you want is here right now. What do you want?

 

The fear that something is missing in you is what leads you to search somewhere else for happiness. You overlook what is already “here” as you chase after “there”; you miss the “sacred now” as you ponder your “next step”; you forget to be grateful for what “is” as you prey after “more.” You search, struggle, and strive, but you never arrive because you can’t get past the thought that something is missing.

Can you see that all your pain comes from the belief that your source of happiness is outside you? This single misperception—this little fear—is what feeds your mental junk, your learned unworthiness, and your “not good enough” stuff. Notice how all your thoughts of fear and lack are reversed the moment you accept that every piece of universal joy rests already in your heart. Feel this, now.

Do you see this?

Your two physical eyes see bits of things. They see bits of the color spectrum, bits of the landscape, bits of the ocean, bits of the sky. They see bits of you and bits of me. But they do not see the big picture. It is only when you look with the heart that you can begin to comprehend the possibility of true wholeness, true beauty, and true oneness.

Imagine whatever you want is here right now. What do you want? Wisdom? It’s already here. Peace? It’s already here.

Inspiration? It’s here already. It’s all here, because you are. This is the big picture. This is what your Unconditioned Self sees.

You are what you seek. This means that whatever joy you hoped “to get” after you found your true partner, got the dream job, bought the ideal home, and earned the right money is already in you! When you search for love, joy, power, money, Heaven, and God; you are really searching for the experience of your Unconditioned Self that is unencumbered by fear, separation, and lack.

You are not here to find happiness; you are here to extend it. You are inspiration-packed, wisdom-infused, made with love, and blessed with joy. And so is everyone else. To be free all you have to do is make yourself wholly available to what is already inside you. Real healing is giving up your resistance to your Unconditioned Self.

Here is some graffiti for the soul. “I am what I seek.” Write it up and stick it in your wallet. Truth is here, inspiration is here, love is here, peace is here, help is here, because you are here. Truth is a pathless land, and happiness is a journey without distance.

Happiness Now!

Some Wisdom

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”  ―Theodore Roosevelt

In life, it is helpful to be able to persuade others, but the only person you absolutely need to convince is yourself.  Unless you sincerely convince yourself of something, no amount of persuasion of anyone else will move you forward.

The number one thing you need to convince yourself of is that you CAN do whatever you seek to accomplish.  If there are skills you must have, you can learn them.  If there are resources you need, you can locate them.  Your beliefs and commitments drive possibility into otherwise difficult situations.  Convince yourself to achieve, and you will find a way to get there.

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”  ―Donald Miller

If you’re still searching for the perfect partner, stop.  There’s no such thing.  There are only different flavors of imperfect ones.  In fact, you are just as imperfect as the partner you seek.  You simply need to find someone whose imperfections complement your own.

This process doesn’t happen overnight.  It takes a lot of living to grow into the realization of your own imperfections.  It takes lots of life experience before you bump into your deepest inner demons, your greatest flaws, and all the idiosyncrasies that make you, YOU.  And it’s only after you meet these imperfect parts of yourself that you know who you are looking for – someone whose scars and flaws fit your own – someone who’s imperfect in the perfect way for you. 

When you die you don't remember how many clothes you had!

I met a 74 years old retired Pilot and he has been wearing same 4 shirts for last 8 years. I asked him that he has so much of money, why he does not buy more clothes and he said that they are in good condition. He does not need more clothes. He said that I am happy because I can use same money for small children in the orphanage. I met another Chinese lady who use to donate all her income in the charity after keeping little for herself. She said that I really do not need so much of money. If I am earning may be because I am suppose to share rest. I got an opportunity to rub on the true beauty inside her and got a chance to sit with her for sometime. She said that in her younger days she use to buy many clothes. Infact, sometimes, they lied untouched for years. One day she saw a small child shivering in cold wearing no warmers. She gave him her jacket which she had not worn for 4-5 years. He was very happy and since then his smile keeps warming her heart always. After that she said that now when she has crossed 65, she does not remember, how many dresses she had worn and how she looked in them or what compliment people gave to her. She remembers only those smiles which had touched her heart. I was listening to her and could feel her heart smiling which was making my heart smile too. You do not have to speak words sometimes, and we shared lots of silent smiles after that. I could feel the free flow of love in our hearts. 

All our lives, we keep living with ego and this ego is so persistent that we do whatever we can do to increase it It needs constant feeding. Infact buying more than what we need also is a sign, where we want to prove that we have so much more. I can afford to buy and I have so many clothes or anything. The truth is what we need is very little than what we actually accumulate. We need to be happy in what we have. If we are unhappy and we lack the real content inside, we like to satisfy that need from outside. However, the truth is we would never be able to fill up that gap from outside. We need to explore our trueself from inside and live with the same reality. We all know we would die one day, we all know we will grow old, still we are unable to live with that reality. I am not asking you to live with the fear of death, however, think once, if it would be your last day, what would you like to do, would you go and buy a new dress or would you do your best to be happy and make others smile. You would get your answer. I remember, I had met a middle aged man, who was hospitalized in his 50s. When he was going to hospital, he was in very sober mood and apologized for whatever wrong he had done and when he came back, he was his usual self again. Again after 5 years when he was hospitalize, he was in sober mood and then back to usual self again. So when he thought that anything can happen to him, he remembered what all things he should not have done and he should have done instead and when he was healthy, he forgot those moments. 

Now the big question is do we want to live with this fake life where we know we are doing what we should not be doing or do we want to live with the reality of love? This life is not about wearing expensive clothes or  jewellery, its about love. Its about how much love you have and how much love you are able to share with everyone else around you. You cannot touch anyone's life by wearing expensive clothes but you can definitely touch someone's life by creating love. 

''Your life has unlimited possibilities.”

Positive change will happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over the uncontrollable. No matter what happens, YOU control what the meaning is, and what to do with the meaning you give to the circumstances around you.  If you are sad about what's going on in your life right now, pause and just remember one permanent fact ,everything changes, and tomorrow might be different. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So embrace it, and realize that change happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.  Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones, over time you will change the trajectory of your life. No matter what happens or does not happen, what comes or does not come, resolve that you will extract from every experience of the day something good, something to empower yourself and hang it up in your memory , like a beautiful piece of art to look at it when you feel down. Life is not about what you could do, it’s about what you will do.  Write this down: “My life has unlimited possibilities.”  Choose to find these possibilities in everything that comes your way, and no problem will ever be able to conquer you. Life is about making a difference, and you will never run out of ways to do that.  Life is what you choose to make it.  You have unlimited power over your mind, not external objects and events. Have a little faith in yourself and you will find the source of strength you need to move mountains.

You are a living magnet.

 

You can do anything that you set your mind to.

You are the author of your own life .

You have the ability to change your life.

You have unlimited potential !

You are a living magnet.

You literally attract the things , people , ideas , and circumstances to you that vibrate and resonate at the same energy frequency as yours.Your energy field changes constantly , based on your thoughts and feelings , and the universe acts like a mirror , sending back a reflection of the energy that you are projecting.The stronger and more intense your thoughts and emotions are , the greater the magnetic pull becomes.Now , this is not a process that requires any real effort ; a magnet doesn't ''try'' to attract anything-it simple does , and so do you !You are always in the process of attracting something into your life.

Do you realize that your life at this very moment is the result  of everything that you have ever thought , done , believed , or felt up until now ?You can start right now to consciously and deliberately attract whatever you desire in this lifetime.

Letting Go

Letting Go

Life is not about control or making things happen in the ways we think they should happen.  In fact, it's rather arrogant for us to be on this planet that's been here for so long and expect to be able to control life on it.  If we want to see changes, then our task is to set things in motion, not to micromanage and make them happen in the ways we think they should.  If we have something that is possessing us, such as alcohol or our television sets or our cell phones, then it could be time to let it go and move on with our lives.  If we're holding on to resentment and anger, we're simply raising our own stress levels and blood pressure, but we're not contributing anything positive to the situation--and it's time to let it go.

We have to decide if we're going to spend our time fighting life, or living life.  Are we contributing to life, or are we telling life what we think it should do and be?  Are we at peace when life shows us something we didn't expect, ready to deal with it on its own terms, or does such a thing knock us for a loop, making us fearful and upset?  Too many of our disappointments are caused by our own expectations, and until we can let go of those expectations, we can be sure that we're going to experience many more stressful, difficult moments in life, moments that we've caused ourselves.

There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind.
But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world; it’s the beginning of a new life.

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